Monday, March 20, 2006

Through a Rapist's Eyes

(No Joke) This is important information for females of ALL ages. Guys - please forward to the female members of your family and all your female friends and associates.When this was sent to me, I was told to forward it to my lady friends. I forwarded it to most everyone in my address book. My men friends have female friends and this information is too important to miss someone. Please pass it along.

A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:
1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around specifically to cut clothing.

3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning, between 5:00a.m. and 8:30a.m.

5) The number one place women are abducted from/ attacked is grocery store parking lots. Number two is office parking lots/garages. Number three is public restrooms.

6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to another location where they don't have to worry about getting caught.

7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.

8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it.

10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: "I can't believe it is so cold out here", "we're in for a bad winter." Now you've seen their face and could identify them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target.

11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell STOP or STAY BACK ! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yell I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm (between the elbow and armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh VERY VERY HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches.Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it hurts.

14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he's out of there.

15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!! You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

Note from Lucy: Several years ago I bought pepper spray, on Ebay, for the females in our family. I gave it at Christmas as one of the gifts I was giving. I wonder now, how many of them really keep the pepper spray in their purse? I think I will make sure to forward the email I got this from to them so that they can see just how important it is to carry pepper spray in your purse. I hope you take this message to heart and learn this valuable information to keep safe.

12 Comments:

At 11:57 AM, Blogger Drywall Mom said...

I try to get Justin to go with me when I am out at night, I always, try to park near the front of the shopping center where there are more people and well lit. Plus, if you have a vehical that turns your inside lights on before you can get to your vehical, it's easier to see inside of it.

 
At 2:16 PM, Blogger DayByDay4-2Day said...

I've read this before, but I'm thankful for the update.

 
At 5:26 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thanks for the advice. But I've always been afraid of the pepper spray blowing back in the wind or otherwise turned against me.

 
At 10:14 PM, Blogger Mountain Mama said...

My friend gave me a canister of pepper spray for CHristmas this year.
This article is great to pass around.
Never just let it happen. Fight.

 
At 10:37 PM, Blogger angel, jr. said...

I think the court should have no mercy on rapists. It's an act of pure evil!

 
At 3:51 AM, Blogger Cassie said...

My husband bought me pepper spray and it went off in my purse when I was searching for something. It wasn't a pleasant experience. I worried a lot about my 2 year old getting hold of it somehow since it didn't have any kind of safety mechanism or anything. I finally threw it away.

 
At 3:56 AM, Blogger Connie and Rob said...

This is wonderful. I am going to pass it along.

I used to carry pepper spray and now I don't. It is time I start again!!

Take Care,
Connie

 
At 3:59 AM, Blogger Pragmatician said...

interesting post, I'm sure it could be of use to many women

 
At 4:09 AM, Blogger Cassie said...

Have you ever checked out snopes.com? it's got an article about this email. http://www.snopes.com/inboxer/outrage/rape.htm

 
At 2:00 PM, Blogger Melanie Morales said...

It's good advice whether it's something that shows up on scam sites or not. My problem with pepper spray in my purse is that I would never be able to find it or get in my hands in order to use it when I needed it!

 
At 5:24 AM, Blogger An80sNut said...

Loving this post, Lucy. All of the females in my family (multiple generations) have been raped. It's not uncommon and still not discussed as often as it needs to be. Nice to see you saying you love your family with the purchase of pepper spray, too.

 
At 1:11 AM, Blogger Michelle said...

Just wanted to add, this information really is false. After my experience with rapists, not one has a specific sterotype he "goes for" Rapists go for anytype of woman, any build, any hair color etc etc.

Also wanted to add, for you ladies if you don't want to use pepper spray (it's illegal in Australia) then you can try a small can of deodorant or perfume spray....both work the same.

 

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